Last night the Wife and I went to a study group with another couple. We really enjoyed it and continue finding things we have in common with this other couple. We both have blended families and also share in some of the same struggles.
One topic we discussed was forgiveness. It’s not easy to forgive others, but we must in order to be forgiven. But how about those we’ve wronged? If they’re not forgiving of the things we’ve done in the past, they will not be forgiven by God. If the reason why a certain person can’t make it to heaven is due to unforgiveness, because of something you’ve done wrong to them, where does that leave you?
Forgiving others is hard, but asking for forgiveness from others, especially those you don’t really care too much for, seems impossible. It’s a very humbling situation. One thing to remember is the person you don’t care for is still and will always be loved by God and God desperately wants a growing relationship with this person. Their unforgiveness for something you may have done can create a relationship road block between them and God.
I understand you cannot make someone forgive you, but to sincerely ask for the forgiveness of those we’ve wronged gives them the opportunity to forgive and consider forgiveness. As Christians I believe asking forgiveness of those we’ve wronged is our obligation. The more time that goes by, the harder this process becomes. I believe God wants to make things easy for us through the word. His word leads me to believe we need to handle things quickly.
23 “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, 24 leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.
25 “Settle matters quickly with your adversary who is taking you to court. Do it while you are still together on the way, or your adversary may hand you over to the judge, and the judge may hand you over to the officer, and you may be thrown into prison.
Be humble, be a light unto the world. (a work in process)