I know one of the things I need to work on is the way I bring up my children. Sure, I bring them to church every Sunday and throughout the week pray with them and talk about Jesus with them. But there are some things that I need to work on, because I know I’ve made compromises with them in certain areas.

For example, some of the cartoons they watch and games they play are good while others are questionable. I don’t let them watch any of the cartoons or play games that are obviously vulgar, but then there are cartoons where every so often something is said that they (the kids) don’t catch, but I do. But, one of my biggest concerns is video games. I remember when I was younger, I played some video games that were pretty bad. I have withheld some of this from my kids, but have made compromises on others.

On the one hand I want to be a parent who doesn’t take everything questionable away from my kids for multiple reasons (or excuses), and some of this does have to do with their perception of God. On the other hand there is a way God want’s me to raise our kids. He blessed us with these kids and wants us to manage them per his instructions.

One of my kids recently was having a hard moment and had a sour face. I asked him, “what is wrong”, with that he replied, “I’m bored :(“. I shared with them the idea that when somethings wrong and the reason starts with, I or I’m, that just might be the source of the problem. We are focusing on to much of I and not enough on God.

As you can see from above (in maroon) I wrote, “On the one hand I“. I know I need to work on trusting in God and his ways and not leaning to my own understanding.

Often, in the morning I’ll pick up my Bible and begin reading the red lettering found within the New Testament. I’ll eventually come across a verse that will stop me in my tracks and get me thinking about it. Then I’ll begin writing about it. Here’s the verse that got this post rolling…

Mark 10:42
“And if anyone causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to be thrown into the sea with a large millstone tied around his neck.

Is this verse focused on those who force Kids to sin or does it reach further to parents who allow a way for kids to sin. I’m thinking both. When I read the verse it says “if anyone causes“. My decisions as a Father can have an impact. I know my kids are not perfect and like any other kid they will make mistakes. But am I allowing anything, not just limited to games or shows, but anything in my home that may be causing my kids to sin? I believe this is a question I need to carefully consider.

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Completely forgiven and saved by grace. God is good! I use this blog to serve as a platform to share my faith and walk with Jesus. I do not have it all figured out, but I do know this, Jesus is Lord! Please feel free to comment. I'd love to hear your thoughts.

2 thoughts on “Raising My Kids, There’s Room for Improvement

  1. This is very hard to do and I struggle with it daily. The most difficult part is not only what we allow them to do, but also what we allow ourselves to do. For my family, that is the struggle. We think We have our bases covered by telling them “this is an adult show, go play in the other room”. We make our excuses as to why it’s ok for us adults to watch inappropriate shows such as our HBO favorite series. And we convince ourselves it’s not being hypocritical because we recognize what is right and wrong and that we are not influenced by what we watch. However this is not true. And it’s also sending them another message, it is telling them indirectly that when you become an adult then you can start watching inappropriate things too. And that is most definitely NOT what we want to do. Raising kids is tough and we don’t always get it right all of the time but it is important to constantly evaluate our weaknesses and look for ways to improve. I pray constantly for God for help in raising my kids and to fill in the gaps that I miss because I know I miss a lot!

    1. Great point and I love how you put that “not only what we allow them to do, but also what we allow ourselves to do” I’m constantly having to keep an eye on the things I watch and do because I know I am an example, but I do slip up. It comes down to what I watch, what I listen to, how I talk – and how about this – how I focus my time, how I treat people, how I treat my wife, and here’s the ultimate, how I follow Christ.

      Our children are like sponges, its up to us to govern what they soak up both on their own, from each other, and definitely from us.

      The video games are such a small piece of what this post is about. Although I think it is important to pay attention to where our kids focus is. Whether playing a war video game or an innocent car racing game, it all comes down to the level of importance games play in their lives. I’ve seen both games pull in their complete focus and attention. As if that’s the only thing that’s important in life was that game. I’ve also seen anger manifest from both types of video games. (! I cant pass this level !). I’ve heard my kids fight over a game. “Moooom, Daaaad…. he keeps killing me.” Then I respond, “Hey! Stop killing her.”, as I go back to watching HBO. Haha. But really, I do believe, like the song says, “it’s a slow fade when you give yourself away”. We just need to continue making small sacrifices daily, and gradually we begin to see a change.

      Here are a couple verses I came across later that day.

      3 John 1:11
      Beloved, do not imitate evil but imitate good. Whoever does good is from God; whoever does evil has not seen God.

      Psalm 119:37 ESV
      Turn my eyes from looking at worthless things; and give me life in your ways

      Philippians 4:8 ESV
      Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

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